Do NOT Pedestalize A Woman

The other night while out having a beer I decided to send a restart text to a girl I had previously posted on asking what she was up to…after that it was on. We started a lengthy and sexual text chat (yeah, I was probably feeding her ego a bit, but it was fun). However one of the things that she wrote really stood out and goes to show Do NOT pedestalize a woman!

“I have been seeing X for a year and he would do anything for me…BUT I have zero physical attraction to him…. then there is my “friend” and the physical attraction is undeniable”

Now, who this “friend” is I do not know. She never mentioned anyone else. Shit, maybe it is me? At one point she made the comment “you were always my mom’s favorite ;-)” And I can push sexual boundaries in my texts to her and she does not flinch at all. Who knows?

That was her only mention of X in any of our chats so he must not have made much of an impression on her over the year. I am using my text with her as an experiment, gauging reactions as well as for my entertainment – Playboy text rule #4. I have found Christian McQueen’s Player’s Text Game to be an invaluable resource. Too bad X doesn’t have a copy…actually sounds like he needs the bundle to get his game together.

Back to my original point…this is proof positive that you DO NOT pedestalize a woman.


Christian McQueen’s The Alpha Playboy 2 Review

Well Christian McQueen has done it again, dropping some hardcore truth bombs and awesomely helpful content in his latest book “The Alpha Playboy 2

A follow up to “The Alpha Playboy” Unlike a fizzled out movie sequel, this book is substantive in content and whether or not you are already in a relationship should be read by all men! If you think your relationship is fine you probably need to check yourself.  “If you want a standard LTR that blows up in your face then read mainstream dating books, or ignore game all together. If you want cold hard facts and practical shit that works then read this book”

I would even say that all of Christian’s content should be mandatory reading for junior high boys – just like how shop class was required.

The book opens up addressing your mindset. Christian drives this topic home in his other books and blog posts…why…BECASUSE IT IS KEY!!!! Yet as I was reading it I didn’t find myself skipping ahead thinking “yep, read this stuff already”. Christian has a way of reformulating his writing so even a topic he has covered before is fresh and you still take new ideas from it. I really appreciated how Christian opened up about his past. You may read his stuff and think he came out of the womb with a snifter of scotch, hair slicked back with pomade as a natural ladies man but you may be surprised to learn that is not the case. His books come from his experiences, trials and tribulations…yes, even Christian suffered oneitis. It is reassuring to know that a cool character like Christian developed from what are probably very similar backgrounds to a lot of other just normal guys.  Without giving too much away one key in mindset is that of control. There is a gut wrenching story of what could happen when you don’t have / lose control of yourself and your mindset.

The book goes on to cover “The Do’s & Don’ts of an LTR” followed by “The Relationship Time-Line”. This time-line is key and I think if this time-line had been wide spread common knowledge there would be a lot few unhappily married men – too many guys accelerate this time-line or end up losing control in the relationship to their detriment.  Provided you have met the do’s & don’ts and have followed the time-line Christian then outlines “How To Tell If She Is A Keeper”. This is important as guys may still have clouded judgment and only sees their girl through rose colored glasses. This provides a good litmus test to post her against.

The next chapters cover “Discipline & Punishment” , appropriately by a chapter on “Tasks & Rewards” that addresses how to reward your girl which is key. Of course there is then a chapter on “Gifts” – oh how so many guys (read – ME) have fucked up here. Absolutely critical is that “it’s not about being cheap but training her to be content with you”. Get the book and Christian will guide you on how to do that.

There is a chapter on “Creating Your Own World With Her”. This chapter included an absolutely mind blowing technique that I would have never thought of, but after reading it makes perfect sense. All I will say is “stuffed animal” – buy the book and find out.

As I pointed out earlier Christian has even suffered from oneitis. To help ease the pain and to help your recover gain momentum there is a chapter on “How To Get Over Your Ex”. Again in this chapter Christian lays out a tragic tale of a man stricken by oneitis. Accordingly, the following chapter is on “Preventing Getting Oneitis Again” – you know how history has a tendency to repeat itself.

One chapter that I particularly liked was “The Mistress Method”. While some may frown upon this, this technique might actually be helpful in maintaining a healthy LTR. While this type of setup is not without its risks Christian spells out risk mistress management. Also, keep in mind, Mistress Method is different from running a harem.

With all this talk of LTR and being stricken by oneitis is a chapter on “Infatuation vs. Love”. This chapter makes the purchase of this book so worthwhile. Christian outlines what he calls infatuation examples, yet I think they are better called warning signs. I recognized almost all of them from points in my past. It is sad to see how badly I have fucked up with girls in the past yet empowering to know that I continue to develop the knowledge and skills to not continue to make those and other stupid mistakes.

Part 1 concludes the chapters that cover LTR game. The parting thought(s) – always protect yourself, make sure you put yourself first and it is not a race.

Part 2 moves into Daygame. This opens of course with a chapter on mindset…why? BECAUSE THAT IS KEY! It is a lot like your college professor…if you notice them drilling on a particular topic over & over guess what, there is probably an important reason and that is you will need to know it. This chapter really blows away any excuse you may have for not wanting to approach a girl.  Once you got your mindset right the chapters that follow go over how to approach with examples of both direct and indirect methods.

After this Christian lays out a challenge – keep in mind just reading his content will do you no good unless you apply what you learn. This challenge leaves you no excuse to get yourself out of applying what you’ve learned, but You Got To Have The Want To. He offers up some opening lines that you can use as you develop your confidence as well as prime real estate spots for day gaming. Of course there is an awesome chapter covering “The Best Way To Get Her #”.

This is a very worthwhile book. Christian once again packs a punch of robust content to help guys develop their mindset and confidence with women. The book is divided into 2 parts: Relationship Game which covers fifteen chapters and Day Game which covers 7 chapters. Christian is also kind enough to include samples of Night Club Bible, Players Guide To Text Game, Stripclub Bible – all of which I would recommend highly. I have reviewed Night Club Bible here  and Stripclub Bible here. I have read but have not written a review of Guide To Text Game, but not because it lacks content – it is a very useful guide. Don’t waste any more of your precious time – make yourself first and get Christian’s books. You won’t regret it.




Who Would You Rather? Stana Katic or Sasha Alexander

There are 2 shows I typically watch while I am at the gym. The shows are somewhat similar, cop dramas but the 2 characters are very different. This led me to wonder, Who would you rather?

Who Would You Rather matches up: Stana Katic who plays Kate Beckett on Castle and Sasha Alexander who plays Maura Isles on Rizzoli & Isles.

Stats on Stana Katic: she will be 36 this April (2014), born April 26 ’78. She comes in at 5’9”. Websites reflect her weight at 125lbs and bra size 34b.  She speaks four languages fluently: English, French, Italian and Serbian. She has no children and appears to have never been married.


Sasha’s stats: born May 17 ’73 she will be 41 this May (2014). She comes in at 5’7 with a reported weight of 132lbs and bra size of 36b. Sasha has been married twice and has 2 children.


Both ladies being fairly attractive and fairly close stats Would You Rather is based on the characters they play, not as themselves.

In Castle Stana wears very masculine outfits. I don’t recall ever seeing her in a skirt or dress. She is always wearing pants and suit type outfits. The outfits do not really flatter her body. Her character is cold and hard.


Now, in the other corner, Sasha’s character is very feminine. While she is smart (she plays an M.E.) her outfits are mostly skirts and dresses and soft looking outfits. Also notice the masculine outfit on Angie Harmon. Her character is similar to that of Stana’s – very masculine, cold and hard. Sasha’s character will wear dresses and will show legs, arms and shoulders.


…of course there doesn’t have to be a black and white answer…there is always the shade of gray where you do both Stana & Sasha  😉





The Next Fraud – Divorce Fraud

I am curious if this will become an unintended consequence of the current political/economic policies. There are numerous types of frauds someone can commit and it got me wondering if at some point there will be something that could be considered “divorce fraud”.

I previously wrote on the how the improving economy is being blamed for the increasing divorce rate and touched briefly on the economic benefits of staying single. I have a suspicion that not only will marriage rates probably fall, the rising divorce rate may not be due to irreconcilable differences or affairs, or any of the other typical catalysts for divorce. Nor will it be due to the improving economy. Rather, a couple that still love each other will decide to legally divorce yet maintain their relationship and living arrangements. They will continue to live in the same house and have relations just like they had while they were married but they will reap the economic benefits of each being viewed as a single by the government.

What scares me about this thought is that at some point, if this trend does take off, is that the government and the courts will begin to take a much close look at divorce filings. Perhaps, creating some type of litmus test to qualify for divorce…think means test for bankruptcy with the intention to identify those who are divorcing for “fraudulent reasons… an ominous thought to consider.

Christian McQueen’s “Nightclub Bible” Review

As I’ve previously written ( Alpha Playboy review / Stripclub Bible review) don’t hesitate to purchase, study, AND IMPLEMENT Christian’s lessons. Your life will change for the better when you incorporate what he teaches in his writings into your life.

What Christian lays out in “Nightclub Bible” will not only help get you laid but build a lifestyle for yourself. Over the course of his book Christian outlines an essential mindset to have and behaviors to implement, which if adopted will help your success with women and in life tremendously.

If you have been hesitant to purchase this book, thinking you have already developed game, Christian makes the distinction that “Nightclub Game” is different from game…just as “Stripclub Game” is different from Nightclub Game.  However, by learning and honing Nightclub Game you can easily apply that to other situations and venues helping you develop your social intelligence so that you can maximize your potential.

The book includes a detailed description of the primary components of the art of the approach – YOU WILL HAVE TO APPROACH WOMEN if you want to get laid! He then goes on to break down the nuts & bolts of the approach as well as a breakdown of an approach in a non-club environment.

Having grown up raised by a single mother I was ingrained with a lot of beta lessons and behavior – for example waiting for a woman to initiate…a very good lesson that I wish I had known in my much younger years is that “most girls want to be led and it is my (the man’s job) to do this”. Christian outlines the steps to escalation – outlines – he does not spell out a verbatim script that you would robotically follow – then you would be incongruent. He gives you steps that you’ll use but adjust accordingly to your personality and scenario.

The book also touches on finding your niche and developing your identity and how this will evolve over time.  Personal style is also gone over with a lay out foundational pieces that you should own and references particular brands and stores to find these items at affordable prices.

As the book progresses Christian gives you a clear cut, easy to do blueprint of prepping for a night out. Make sure to follow this to ensure a smooth closing to your night.

Another topic also covered is getting a club on lock down and explains not only the steps to take to build a good reputation but also the steps to avoid which could destroy your reputation.

This is a very well put together book with a lot of content that is applicable (and SHOULD BE APPLIED) to other areas of a man’s life which will help create cascading successes.

Christian McQueen’s “Stripclub Bible” Review

I’ve already written on how Christian McQueen is the real deal in my review of The Alpha Playboy, so I won’t go into more detail on why you shouldn’t hesitate to buy any of his books.

This is my review of Stripclub Bible. This book 12 chapters + conclusion full of absolute gold nuggets of wisdom. Christian has taken his decade plus of experiences and trial and error in strip clubs and condensed it down to easy to digest, and EASY TO IMPLEMENT steps.

While you may have Nightclub Bible this is a necessary addition, as Christian points out “Stripclub game is a different animal from Nightclub game” and, keypoint that Christian makes “learning the difference and becoming great at both will only add to your pussy coffers more.”

While this book contains an enormous amount of helpful info that will catapult your strip club game, one key point that Christian spells out is how to look and think about strippers differently than you probably have been. This one mindset change completely makes the purchase of this book worth it!!

The Alpha Playboy Review

If you haven’t read or purchased any of Christian McQueen’s content you need to get on the ball and check this cat out. This guy is the real deal. His background has given him the experience to share his wisdom, which if followed, will help propel your life on an upward trajectory.

If you are hesitant to spend $$ on books, which really are quite reasonably priced, then check out his free content at: his blog or ROK. What I really like about Christian’s free content is that they are complete articles. They aren’t a teasing segue into a sales pitch to get the remainder of the information – and he offers  A LOT of free content. I’m sure after checking out his free content any reservations you may have had about spending some $$ on a few e-books will be eliminated.

As of this writing (Feb 2014) Christian has five books: The Nightclub Bible, The Stripclub Bible, The Player’s Guide To Text Game, How To Pick Up Girls In Nightclubs & Bars and The Alpha Playboy.

I’ll be posting reviews on Nightclub Bible, Stripclub Bible and How To Pick Up Girls shortly while Text Game is a new release that I haven’t had a chance to pick up yet.

The AlphaPlayboy is divided into 4 sections (or topics) with individual chapters for each.

Section One is on Game.  In the first chapter of this section Christian explains how the foundation of everything is confidence…confidence in self and who you are. Christian lays out step by step how to develop true intrinsic confidence…not extrinsic confidence. He lays out how you can develop the kind of confidence that even if you were stripped of everything you could still see yourself as a man of worth.

This chapter had a lot of good take a ways and steps you can take to work on your confidence. One thing that stuck out for me was rather than trying to make yourself seem busy why not actually BE BUSY – work on your fitness, side hustles/entrepreneurial ventures, attending events (in person…not virtual). Don’t fake being busy. No one wants to be around someone that doesn’t have anything going on in their life. Have goals and work on them!

Chapter two of section one covers “Deep Conversion Game”. In this Christian gives a bullet point play by play of how to enrapture a woman to the point that she is dependent on you for her happiness.  Christian does make an excellent point that this is something that you should utilize on new girls – your behavior will be incongruent if you try on women that are already a part of your life and have previous experience with you. After the bullet points Christian goes into detail on different “moves” that will help the Deep Conversion along. An excellent key point in the chapter is that you should use your time as the reward, not material goods – make sure that she believes that you are the reward

Section two covers style and chapter one covers the foundation of style – the essential wardrobe. In this chapter Christian provides a checklist of essential pieces. Along with the wardrobe checklist Christian also provides a list of good stores to get these items from. While chapter one covered the necessities, chapter two covers the topic of making sure it all fits right. Christian covers options for specifically tall and short men as well topics applicable to all men.  Key point “it is better to wear a $300 suit tailored perfectly than to wear an ill-fitting $3000 suit”.

Section three covers fitness and recipes. Chapter one covers fitness. This chapter offers practical, quick workout routines that can be done anywhere. Some of the workout routines outlined includes a full week workout, Individual Rounds Routines, and Abdominal Routines. Each of these can easily be done from anywhere and do not require any equipment. Chapter two offers recipes and offers a good variety of meal ideas for breakfasts, lunches and dinners.

Section Four is all about lifestyle. Chapter one is “The McQueen Manifesto”. I will not go into the details of this only to say it is a MUST READ! Chapter two is on lists and goals. Lists chart out your day and what you want/need to accomplish that day. Key take away on lists: “A man without direction will never become great. You have to know where you want to be…” While a list reflects daily objectives a goal is much larger and covers a longer time period. Actionable items towards your goal should be included on your lists – everyday that you don’t take an action towards your goal is another day wasted! Remember, without a goal you will stagnate and stagnation is the death of your spirit

The Alpha Playboy is an excellent book and Christian’s spirit and intent to help men elevate their game and lifestyle comes through in his writing.